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Thursday, August 31, 2006

Hammer

After our trip, we were hit with an assortment of questions. What was your favorite place, favorite experience, best food, top three destinations, biggest surprise, did you get along? All of them left me numb tongued. It was too long to reduce to sound bites and I couldn't pick. On Sunday, our friend Betsy asked about any revelations we had while traveling. Again, stuck. But I felt I could answer this question eventually. I am always having and sometimes reversing revelations. Warning, these are not new, even to me, but it takes a hammer to change behavior so realizing repeatedly is required.

  • Don't tell me I am supposed to absolutely love it, it spoils. I admit that this is my problem, so continue to give me recommendations. Just watch out for these phrases: the best, most incredible place in the world, you'll never leave and I could eat a sandwich there all day.

  • I like people as much as critters. I can watch people longer.

  • My friends and family are it. Mountains, trees and canyons become a painting by Bob Ross without them.

  • Sometimes I can't feel anything. I should be excited, amazed, awed, and I feel nothing (see points above). It's just a pretty rock with trees or a big/small hairy beast. It's ok.

  • Moods imprints memory with a colored haze. I remember odd more clearly then beautiful.

  • Earth is a funny planet. I like it.

4 Comments:

  • Point #1 is a tricky one. On one hand: totally. Hype can kill off anything in a second. If you're told it's THE BEST EVER you have a tendency to expect the best ever and nothing but. Go figure.

    But as someone who's very prone to using the phrase "the best ever", I do like that enthusiasm in a description. It just needs some analysis to go along with it, and maybe a disclaimer or two. Just so you know what to look for and don't expect immediate ecstasy.

    By Blogger Reid, at 8/31/2006 8:50 AM  

  • I think a little reflective ownership goes a long way. "I" statements can produce a much more coherent communication without imposed expectations. It makes it less definitive and automatically frees the other person to develop their own perception.

    We have knee jerk stubborn tendencies in our blood.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 8/31/2006 10:14 AM  

  • Laura, I think you lost me. I see I in my sentences? Is my sarcasm not coming through on my blog? 

    On point #1, I read Amazon reviews, I like the concept of Angie's list (user based reviews on local merchants), and I read books and see movies based solely on respected recommendations. With the intranet, I think the future of business is in the hands of the people. 'All say AMEN'

    But in parts of Alaska this summer, I was ready for perfection, stunning beauty and an abundance of wildlife. I got a great deal – but I was set up way too high. I wanted more grizzlies, more moose and less people. I wondered – what would it have been like just to discoverer this accidentally. What if Alaska was in the middle of Kansas in a sixth dimension? You were driving across a corn field, and then suddenly deposited in alluvial fan (term from Callan) in the middle of Denali.

    By Blogger L, at 8/31/2006 12:11 PM  

  • I didn't mean your statements in regards to the "I" I meant others. For instance, if someone tells you "You're going to love it" or "It is the most beautiful amazing place ever", versus "I thought it was fantastic" it seems to illicit a different response.

    I stumble with sarcasm.

    ...and actually I dance around like a grasshopper before coffee as long as a get a great night's sleep (no booze the night before + quiet night). I can actually wake up giggling. It's remarkable.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 8/31/2006 11:39 PM  

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